 Well, I survived the first full weekend since my kids started college.
I received hundreds of heartfelt comments, posts and emails from parents who've been (or are currently) in my shoes. What struck me most is that I expected everyone to say it gets easier with time. Instead, the vast majority were brutally honest: the new normal sucks.
While they're happy for their kid's freedom and independence---- and they know rationally that everyone grows up----they still miss their babies terribly, as do I.
Yet I've never been content to sit back and be miserable. I refuse to go there. I can't cry all day.
I write about hustling all day, everyday, for years only to freak out most nights about all the stuff I neglected to tackle. I was dwelling on what went wrong instead of what went right.
Then I made a cognitive shift: I chose to redefine my bedtime routine. I decided to end each night by asking myself: WHAT WENT RIGHT TODAY? 
Focusing on positive tidbits allowed me to sleep so much better than worrying about whatever I forgot and all that awaits me tomorrow.
Now that I have two empty bedrooms at home since my kids are college freshman, I've had to work harder at this. I'm as determined as ever to celebrate all the goodness instead of allowing tears to flow.
There are so many principles of shifting that I'm fortunate to lean on. I believe strongly in making today better than yesterday, which means I have to believe in the future instead of longing unrealistically for the past.
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Whatever challenges you're facing, together we can ---- and will ----SHIFT FOR GOOD.
xx Tory
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